7 fresh ways to spice up your sex life
Every long-term sex life has a shape to it — not a straight line, but something more like a set of hills. There are stretches where you can’t keep your hands off each other, and stretches where sex slips right down the priority list behind sleep, work deadlines and whoever’s turn it is to do school pickup. Both are normal. Neither one is the “real” version of your relationship.
Desire also isn’t one thing. It responds to stress, hormones, body image, how safe you feel with each other emotionally, how tired you are, and how much unresolved tension is sitting quietly in the background of your week. Two people can be deeply in love and still find themselves in a low patch, simply because life is too loud and demanding. That’s not a verdict on the relationship — it’s context.